Comments on: Mental Monday: When It Comes To Grief, Nothing Is Normal.

By: Michaela

Michaela — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 03:52:32 +0000

Well written! Who are we to judge how others react to news like that? I couldn’t believe the backlash that she received. Some people reach out to friends and family and for many the online community is just that.
I want to thank you for stopping by on my SITS day. My thoughts will be with you and your family.
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By: Emily

Emily — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 11:36:24 +0000

I think I’d be reaching out to my friends and family before an online community. As a mother, I personally thought it was awful that she’d Twittered it. With my journalist’s hat on, it is a story and a provocative one at that! Judging is natural and of course, we don’t know what we would do. I think the internet and technology is awesome but for lots of people it is their world and that isn’t healthy. I am so thankful my generation (x) didn’t have it in our faces all the time growing up.
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By: Teresa@Too Many Heartbeats

Teresa@Too Many Heartbeats — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 21:24:18 +0000

AMEN SISTER!

I am SO tired of hearing phrases like…..’it’s not normal…’ or ‘he just wasn’t acting normally.’ We hear them on the news and other TV specials a lot these days after a tragedy. ‘Well, the [father, mother, husband, wife] was not acting normally after the incident’. Who’s to say what actions/reactions are normal after a horrible event happens in someone’s life? What might be ‘normal’ for you might not be ‘normal’ for me. It is just plain wrong, in my opinion, to judge someone based on their actions/reactions after a traumatic event. We never know how we are going to react until we are placed in that exact same situation. When I hear someone make that ridiculous statement, I want to stop them and say, ‘You need to be VERY thankful you are not the one who is in that situation and don’t be so quick to judge!’

I’m dropping by from SITS. I’ve been praying for this family since I heard about the tragedy and I will continue to do so. I know this is hard for the family to bear, and the fact that it happened so close to the holidays must make it that much more difficult.

Thank you for writing about this. I pray you have a wonderfully blessed Christmas Season.

Teresa <
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By: Danielle

Danielle — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:45:43 +0000

Stopping by from SITS. Oh my. People are so cruel. I completely agree with you. There is no reason to cast judgement on her at all. Ugh. I hope this post will teach someone a lesson!!!

xoxo
Danielle
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By: nadirah angail

nadirah angail — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 17:03:42 +0000

youre a MFT? so am I. Cool.

By: Paula

Paula — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 15:17:40 +0000

A friend of mine went to be with her after the death of her son. It was such a tragic time.

I’m always online through my phone. After I’ve talked to my family I can see myself reaching out through social media as well.

Huge hugs to her!

visiting from SITS
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By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 11:40:25 +0000

You said it perfectly. While I may not ihave mmediately ran to my computer after suffering a tradegy such as hers, I can’t imagine her pain. Whatever she needs to do to cope should be acceptable at this time.
What she was asking for was comfort, not judgement.
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By: becca

becca — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 02:52:14 +0000

Couldn’t agree more. I can’t imagine having it together enough after such a tragedy to pick up my phone and tweet what happened but if I did, I’m sure after my initial phonecalls, it’s what I would do. It’s like screaming at the top of your lungs (which does sound like something I’d want to do in this situation) but with hundreds or thousands standing there to hear you.

I just couldn’t believe the judgements and the accusations of fraud that went on after this happened. It was seriously nauseating.

thanks for posting this. Well said!
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By: JDaniel4's Mom

JDaniel4's Mom — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 12:17:09 +0000

I think if you have reached out to gain the support you need that is what you should get.
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By: ContessaGrigia

ContessaGrigia — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 07:46:40 +0000

That is too sad!
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